Prostitution is hardly a taboo any longer, especially in Germany where ladies of the night can legally ply their trade in broad daylight on the capital’s asphalt, while contributing to their state retirement pensions.

More unmentionable is sex in old age. Elderly men being serviced by prostitutes is a reality that is kept discreet inside the walls of retirement homes. Yet, according to the Bundesverband sexuelle Dienste e.V., an advocacy group for sex workers and brothel keepers, prostitutes regularly visit every second retirement home in Berlin.

One worker say’s

“Every time I go to see him, I have to introduce myself again,” says Nina de Vries , who works as a ‘sexual assistant’ for Josef, an elderly man suffering from dementia. “Then I ask whether he’d like a massage and he says ‘oh yes, that would be nice.’”

De Vries’ time with Josef involves them being naked, touching and holding each other, and it will end with him having an orgasm. A visit costs €120 per hour (€90 if the client comes to her place). Intercourse and oral sex do not usually feature in her arrangements.

De Vries doesn’t feel this sets her apart from other prostitutes, however. “I think differentiating myself from prostitution would be assuming,” says the middle-aged full-bodied brunette leaning back in a chair in her suburban garden, swathed in black, loose-fitting cotton clothes.

“I prefer the term sexual assistant because it doesn’t carry any negative connotations, but I don’t shy away from describing what I do as a sexual service for which I expect to get paid.”

Lisa. An hour with her costs €100 and usually includes tantric massage. “Prostitutes are particularly important in showing people who are a bit older, who haven’t had sex in a long time, that they’re still sexual beings,” she says, going on to diverge from de Vries: “There’s almost a therapeutic aspect to my work.”


A few weeks ago, I had a conversation with a friend about disabled people in Tirana and I mention one guy with no arms or legs that I usually give money too. Her response: “He is a crook because he has a helper who watches over him and together they DRINK ALCOHOL. It got me thinking about a magazine article that I read years ago which said that a certain old people’s home drives their disabled residents to brothels in an ambulance. Of course the client had to pay for the prostitute but not for the free ambulance ride. After all, just because a guy is old and disabled does not mean that he does not have money or sexual needs.

Which brings to the next point; what about the disabled guy without money and the means to earn it?

Why does it surprise, bother or disappoint us when a disabled beggar fancies a beer or a glass of wine? Is it because we are only prepared to pay for life’s sustenance and not the quality of life? While the disabled need food and water to stay alive, we can’t exactly say that they need alcohol to stay alive and yet after facing a hard day a few people might find a glass of wine not only a welcome relaxation but also as a way to save one’s sanity especially when they discover that it is really illegal to kill their horrible neighbours. My point is that many people consider alcohol as necessary as lunch but yet we are pained when a disabled beggar spends our hard earned 1Euro on alcohol regardless of the fact that we bought the most rounds of drinks last night spending between 20 and 30 Euros or more.

Some would say put your money where your mouth is and I do. The beggar that I always gave money to in Vienna, was a guy who went around saying “I am an alcoholic please give me some money. I need a drink.” I rewarded his honesty every time.

Let’s cut disabled street beggars some slack.


Racism among the black race?

Now I must admit that I have experienced racism in one form or another throughout my life and it no longer surprises me.  What did surprise me was to find black groups that can rival anything the KU KLUX KLAN has to offer. The first thing they did was call me a ‘Coon’( hope I have the spelling right) a word that I had not come across till then at least not in the way it was used. It seems this word was used to describe the Negro ass lickers who kissed the feet of their white slave masters to gain favour. While I had not done such a thing given the fact that I was born way after slavery, some people still felt that I qualified for this title because I have been happily married to a white man for 19 yrs and counting.

The fact that I was and still am in love with this man did not make an impression on this group. Their point is, you should only marry someone from your race. This people described two great African leaders as follows:

The late president of South Africa Nelson Mandela, was a sellout because he did not evict or kill all the white people. Martin Luther King Junior did nothing for the black people because he did not advocate violence. In fact he was an idiot.

Should you not fight fire with fire? But that is a point for another time.

The racism that I discovered in those two groups boggles the mind. Should black people not know better? As people who have firsthand experience with racism should they not know the evil of this practice?  How can we as  a people teach our children to hate based on another person’s colour? Was it not enough that we were called monkeys and treated as sub-humans simply because our race? Do we want revenge, retribution or are we simply not smart enough to understand that though racism still exists today it belongs nowhere in our world? How can we teach our children hate in any way and expect them not to suffer the consequences? I am a firm believer that hate eats us from within and that those who carry it cannot go unscathed. I also know that those who hate me because I am black or those who hate my husband because he is white are lesser beings of little intelligence who have no place in my heart. How can it be smart to hate that which you do not know? Some people blame race for all if not most of their problems and I try to avoid that. If someone calls me a bastard I step back and try to reason whether I was being a bastard or not. I do not automatically assume that the reason for the insult was my race. Maybe the guy/girl was having a bad day and would have insulted me even if I had been white.

I want my daughter to marry the man she loves regardless of his race, religion or gender. The most important thing is that my daughter should find her definition of happiness and live it. She should be proud of whom she is and she should know where she came from and where her people before her came from. I hope to teach my daughter the history of the blacks and the history of the whites in the hope that she will learn from their mistakes and not repeat the errors of our forefathers. For many in our world equality is a myth that they may never experience in their life time. For those of us who have had the good fortune to experience a world still striving for all kinds of equality let us not destroy it for our children by teaching them to hate BASED ON THE COLOUR OF THE SKIN.


Sex doll ‘brothel’: Paris council to decide on future of Xdolls games centre

  • 19 March 2018

The owner of Xdolls says his sex dolls are like sex toys and do not degrade women (file picture

Paris councillors are due to decide on the future of a business where clients are charged €89 ($109; £78) to spend an hour with a silicon sex doll, local media report.

Communist councillors and feminist groups have been calling for the closure of Xdolls.

Currently, Xdolls is registered as a games centre, but opponents argue it is effectively a brothel.

Owning or operating a brothel is illegal in France.
“Xdolls conveys a degrading image of the woman,” he is quoted as saying in Le Parisien.

He and his fellow councillors are calling for a ban on Xdolls, saying operates like a brothel.

Mr Lousquy says the dolls are sex toys and that he does not see them as degrading to women.

Lorraine Questiaux, lawyer and spokesperson for a Paris feminist association, says “that in France, every year, there are 86,000 women raped”


Sonisay’s: So a sex doll brothel? Interesting concept.


Brothel a house or other place where men pay to have sexual intercourse with prostitutes

prostitute is a person, usually a woman, who has sex with men in exchange for money.

I am not entirely sure what is wrong with this picture. A man operates what he refers to as a gaming place where men can have sex with dolls. Some people say ‘that is a brothel’ but a brothel is a place where men pay for prostitutes.  Prostitutes are people, more often than not they are women. So since when did dolls become women?

Some people say that people go to Xdolls to rape the dolls. Can we really say that along with animals and people it is possible to abuse dolls?

While others suggest that it encourages people to rape women. In my opinion, rapists are rapists, evil, vile sadistic creatures that prey on weaker people for sexual gratification.

Real rapists with money will not go to Xdolls  because they do not want consensual sex, the act of violence and power is what excites them and let’s face it, rape though sexual is not an act of sex, it is an act of violence.

Real rapist, without money will not go to Xdolls to begin with. They have no money and they also need or want violence in the act. So can a doll fight back?

I am not sure how sex dolls are degrading to women.

Vibrators have been in the market for as long as I can remember. Most vibrators, at least in the earlier days, were made for women to get sexual gratification in the absence of men and to my knowledge no one has said that vibrators are degrading to men or women for that matter. So how are the Xdolls different from Vibrators. Both cost money for sexual gratification in the absence of a human.

Is it not better for men to go to an Xdoll “brothel” as opposed to the real deal? I have heard of cases where a prostitute claims child support from a former client.

Without “Jons” (a term sometimes used to refer to prostitute’s male clients), there would not be prostitutes. No demand no business. Is it not better to direct all Jons to Xdolls, at least for those who are offended by prostitution or who want to protect their daughters, sisters or women in general?

Prostitution one of the world’s oldest profession, more on that later.






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